Happy Ramadan or What Constitutes a Dead Beat Dad?

I spent two hours post root canal digging through storage trying to find warmer clothes. No avail. My Realtor, St. David is out of pocket, or I'd go dig through the horse trailer on the other side of town.
...Fall arrived nasty-like today.

You see, it's been a shitty week, as shitty weeks go, and today was the final blow to my already stretched to the max tolerance of stupid fucking people.
Because when that Judge issued a new court order for Child Support to be increased to a whopping $238 a month in August (up from a sporadically paid $127), he very firmly said it was due on the first of September...2007

Because, and I'm going to say what I never publicly say, Al's father is the biggest loser on the face of the Earth, we have to use the illustrious Department of Human Services to collect. Yes, the very entity who played a pivotal role in the destruction of my family, now is the filtration system set in place to ensure some sort of recourse is had on my part when loser-dad fails to pay...which he will as sure as breathe.
Last Saturday the 8th of September, Loser dad assures me the full amount has been mailed in via money order (since loser-dad has no checking account) this alone angers me, knowing it will take five to seven days for the money to post on my Oklahoma Debit Card. (a way of helping us moms feel independent...and track our spending like children...er, somethin)
I asked him, I mean Loser dad, if he included a copy of the court order with his "money order", so as to insure Al would be the recipient of ALL the funds, and not just $127...in the past, when loser dad has sent in additional funds over the court ordered $127, such as, say seventy five cents...that money went to pay the state back. ANY MONEY OVER THE COURT ORDERED AMOUNT GOES DIRECTLY TO THE STATE "Yes, I did"
That's what he said people, he said "Yes, I did"...I even PUSHED the matter just a smidgen more with a follow up of "ARE YOU SURE?" going on to explain why it was so important they have documentation of the CURRENT court order, because they, like he, are MORONS.
Tick tock, each morning I check to see if his payment, the one due on September first, had posted. Tick tock, through living out of my crappy fluorescent yellow "Members Only" luggage, circa 1993 for THREE WEEKS. Tick tock, through CRUSHING my foot and nearly DYING in the emergency room because some newbie M.D. thinks a Morphine drip for a sprain is overkill, Tick tock another fucking meteor shower, no house close, dinosaurs are dropping like flies...and all, ALL I need is some crappy FUCKING CHILD SUPPORT SO I CAN SUPPORT THAT LOSERS KID...ONE...MORE...MONTH, while LIVING in a Godamned pool caBANA!!!!!   
Marc Cates (8017 Lakehurst Dr Okc 73120) was asked to track down the office where he could present the court order today and see about issuing a check that is rightfully The Mer's money. Marc Cates (8017 Lakehurst Dr Okc 73120) owing back child support DOES NOT come out of what the judge orders is appropriate financial support given Marc Cates (8017 Lakehurst Dr Okc 73120) income.
He refused to take any action without me, first, locating phone numbers, addresses, basically holding his little fucking hand.
I have a child who's hand I hold...his name is Al, not Marc Cates (8017 Lakehurst Dr Okc 73120)
Marc Cates (8017 Lakehurst Dr Okc 73120) family can and should help in this instance, if the Uncle can foot the bill for half a wii, he can help get his nephew into a home of his own...but, the case goes "If they don't have anywhere to live, if she falls on her face we can get Al"

Ya know what? I'll gladly give Al to those two idiots. If they can remember to feed him, give him his meds at the correct time, get him to his Dr.'s appts, do P.T. every day, figure out where he'll go while they're at work, plus deal with the after affects of Al being in daycare, staying up too late at night, eating junk, not having any structure or routine...I'll NEVER have to hear that threat again, but at what cost to The Mer?

In CON-clu-SION...lets just say THIS much about Marc Cates (8017 Lakehurst Dr OKC 73120) He lied and either a.) did NOT include the court order. Or b.) didn't send the full amount to begin with.

But at least today I've got $127 to support The Mer on that I didn't have....BULLSHIT, BULLSHIT, BULLSHIT! I cannot pay a f*cking mortgage like this!

On a lighter note, if there is one in my life right now, Talal, that beautiful smelling Muslim boy (he's 23, he's a boy) who lives in the "Big House" tells me it's Ramadan! So of course in support of his religious life I shall fast with him.

Not like right next to him, he's in school and stuff, but in solidarity of Ramadan. Who needs food during the day anyway, it just slows you down. If Allah is the One, at least he's not building vulgar expressions of the faith with the money he steals right out of the pockets of the poor stupid people who earn it. Y'all.

Bad week. Happy Ramadan.
This too shall pass.

 

Comments

[Stef]

Since I live in the OKC area, I'm very tempted to show up at his house and say, WTF dude, pay your frigging child support like a man. Or plant little signs all over his yard announcing to the world he's a deadbeat dad. Or... (fill in the blank). Because I would so do that to my kids' deadbeat dad. Perhaps Marc, like my ex, should be made to pay it thru a garnishment of his wages (that is, if he's working). Then you'll get it no matter what. Or at least, I hope that's how it works here.

[transformation soup]

TELL me that you are giving us permission to write to that scumbag. Please, please?! Because man, I am so tempted.
I'm guessing that he never paid the full amount ordered, and that he didn't send a copy of the judgment w/payment in the first place. #@!
P.S. Fasting might not be such a good idea. That also means- no smoking, drinking (coffee, water, or other!) or even chewing gum or sucking tictacs. :)